Leaving an abusive relationship is a difficult and often dangerous process. As someone who has gone through it, I know firsthand how overwhelming it can be to think about leaving, let alone actually doing it. However, with the right support and resources, it is possible to create a safety plan that can help you leave your abuser safely and start a new life.

What is a Safety Plan?

A safety plan is a personalized plan of action that outlines the steps you can take to protect yourself when leaving an abusive relationship. It can help you anticipate potential risks and develop a plan for staying safe during and after leaving.

Creating a Safety Plan

Creating a safety plan can seem overwhelming, but taking it one step at a time can make the process more manageable. Here are some steps to consider when creating your own safety plan:

1. Identify Potential Risks

Start by identifying potential risks in your current situation. This can include things like identifying the times of day or locations where your abuser is most likely to be violent, as well as any weapons they may have access to.

2. Develop a Communication Plan

Develop a plan for communicating with friends, family members, and other support systems. This can include setting up code words or signals to indicate when you need help, as well as sharing your safety plan with trusted individuals.

3. Pack a Bag

Pack a bag with essentials such as clothes, medication, important documents, and cash. Keep the bag in a safe place where your abuser cannot find it.

4. Identify Safe Places to Go

Identify safe places to go, such as a friend’s house, a shelter, or a hotel. Make arrangements ahead of time so that you have a place to go in case of an emergency.

5. Consider Legal Options

Consider obtaining a restraining order or other legal protections. A lawyer or advocate can help you understand your options and assist with the legal process.

6. Practice Self-Care

Take care of yourself during this difficult time. This can include things like seeing a therapist, practicing mindfulness techniques, or engaging in activities that bring you joy.

Conclusion

Creating a safety plan is an important step in leaving an abusive relationship. By identifying potential risks, developing a communication plan, packing a bag, identifying safe places to go, considering legal options, and practicing self-care, survivors of abuse can increase their chances of leaving safely and starting a new life free from violence.